Category Archives: Successful Kids

Who Pays for College and How?

During senior year of high school my Dad pushed for a decision on what I would go to college for. I had ABSOLUTELY no idea. Knowing I liked to tinker with electronics, he said “Here are 2 options; electronics and computer programming.” I said, “Well, let’s go with, um, ahhh, hmmm…Computer Programming.” The options presented were at what is now called Northern Maine Community College.

We are taking a similar approach with our kids. That is, having them start at a local / community college and we “foot the bill.” There are numerous benefits, including:

  • It being much easier to “pay as you go” (loan free)
  • There are no (additional) expenses for room and board (although these boys are eating a whole lot more!)
  • When an early mistake is made (i.e., a class must be retaken) it isn’t too painful/costly
  • Provides an opportunity to try things out (college as well as the field of study) to get their feet wet and determine if this is truly the direction they want to go, making a change in direction less painful/costly
  • Credits from community college can be transferred to 4-year colleges saving 10’s of thousands of dollars!!!
  • Bottom-line: Provides a foundational college education with no loans hanging over their head

Once they have achieved an Associates Degree, and possibly a Certificate or two, a decision can be made regarding the continuation of that education. This is where they begin “footing the bill.” I’m willing to co-sign for loans, but they take ownership of this next level of investment in their education — if they choose to continue. This includes continuing to maintain a job to cover their living expenses and to begin making payments on their newly acquired school loans (while still in school). This approach is working well so far; 3 in process, 1 to go 🙂

While I may have “only” achieved my Associates Degree I took advantage of EVERY training opportunity provided by employers and have consistently invested (out-of-pocket) in continuous education — in many forms. The result: Achieving “only” an Associates Degree hasn’t held me back in the least.

Make no mistake, I believe that a solid education is crucial! My experience is that it isn’t “so much” the degree achieved or the college attended, but what you do with that degree and how you continue your education — FOREVER!

A few pointers related to college-related books, as they are EXPENSIVE! Once your student has their list of classes they can find out what books are needed for each – from their teacher. NOT the school bookstore. Go to Amazon.com to acquire these vs. the school bookstore and you will save a great deal! Then, monitor the use of the books after classes have begun. There have been numerous cases for our kids when the teacher indicates “This is recommended reference material, but we really aren’t going to use it.” When you observe this, send it back to Amazon for a refund!

Economists report that a college education adds many thousands of dollars to a man’s lifetime income – which he then spends sending his son to college. ~ Bill Vaughn

Please feel free to reply with strategies you’ve found effective for helping your kid(s) through the process of acquiring a college education, without you taking on debt to do so. And, please feel free to forward this along to anyone you feel may benefit.

Incenting Our Kids to Read

Where you will be five years from now will depend on the books you read, what you listen to and the people you associate with.” – Dave Johnson

It has always been a challenge to get kids to read; especially what you’d like them to (in addition to what they are required to read, for school). And, it has become more of a challenge with the distractions available online.

One thing we’ve done with great success is incented our kids to read by paying them to deliver a book report — on books of OUR choice. In fact, we feel that some are worth so much towards their future that we’ve paid $100 for a completed book report. See the recommended readings page for perfect examples.

We have provided them a menu of these (and other) books and the incentive (value) for delivering a report on each. We have them prepare the report by hand vs. typed, as it is too easy to copy someone’s work via cut and paste. The very process of writing it out further burns the content into the mind 🙂 And, since I’ve read them all I know if they “got it.”

If you’d like a copy of the menu of books and book report template, just send me an email requesting this. Yes, it is free!

Imparting Timeless Wisdom To Our Children

For my first official post I thought I’d share an idea my wife and I have used to impart timeless wisdom to our 4 boys.

Let’s face it, raising great kids takes guts! Doing so requires a careful balance between direct control / guidance (when it is absolutely required) and providing indirect guidance / letting them figure things out on their own.

Having mom or dad say something that we hope will be useful in guiding our child(ren) can often (at least seemingly) go in one ear and out the other. Don’t despair. A lot truly does stick. You’ll notice this when your child (eventually, as they get older) mentions, “you were right.” Yes, this does REALLY happen!

One thing we have done to reinforce solid life principles with our boys, in an indirect way, is to post what I’ve called “Wisdom Quotes” on our fridge. These are quotes that I’ve come across that have provided me a particularly useful and timely “shot in the arm” and inspiration for the day.

Over time I’ll collect a handful of quotes, print them out and post them on the fridge. After 4-6 weeks I’ll rinse and repeat (post another set of quotes). We’ve been doing this for quite some time. And, we are most definitely observing the result that this (and other things we are doing, to be shared later) is having on our boys!

I’ve shared “some” of my favorite quotes on our “Favorite Quotes” page. Check them out and see if any could work for you (and your kids).

A quote that is apropos for this post is:

“You are what you are and where you are because of what has gone into your mind. You can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” ~ Zig Zigler

Let me know what you think and / or feel free to share useful ideas you’ve used to impart timeless wisdom to your kids (without them looking at you like you had 2 heads 🙂 ).

Enjoy the day!