Monthly Archives: June 2015

What Is My Prevailing Disposition Towards Life?

There are 3 words that we might use to characterize ourselves, as relates to our disposition towards life.

  1. Reactor
  2. Floater
  3. Creator

While we’ve ALL, at least temporarily, demonstrated characteristics of each of these, we generally have a tendency to fall into one of the above as our prevailing disposition.

Which are you?

The Reactors

For them:

  • Life is a constant struggle.
  • “Unforeseen” obstacles or issues seem to keep popping up – relentlessly.
  • Much of life is already decided, based upon someone else’s actions or decisions.
  • Negativity and complaining is the norm.
  • A great deal of thinking is focused on the past: “Oh, I wish I had or hadn’t“; “Where are the good ole days?” Or, fretting about the future: “How will I pay for…?“; “What will happen if…?
  • Happiness is something they are waiting on, from someone or something “out there.”
  • Circumstances rule the day.

The Floaters

This is the easy group. They don’t really care. The good news is that they don’t complain, either. They just take it as it comes and go with the flow. All-in-all, they seem to be a pretty happy bunch 🙂

The Creators

For them:

  • Life is an adventure, full of never-ending (often self-imposed) challenges and opportunities (i.e., EXPERIENCES).
  • Life’s issues and obstacles are immediately KNOCKED DOWN so they can keep moving.
  • No-one decides upon their life, but them.
  • Optimism and encouragement is the norm.
  • A great deal of thinking is focused on: “What am I going to do / achieve / become next?“; “Who / how can I help?
  • Happiness comes from the inside (the spirit), which is the ONLY source of joy!
  • Circumstances are CREATED when they don’t align with their aspirations.

The purpose of this post is NOT to judge a particular category. The point is to share perspective so that we each can determine which bucket we are in, decide if we are happy there and change if we are NOT happy.

Again, we’ve all exhibited characteristics from each of these broad categories, from time-to-time. That is only natural. The key question is: Which is the prevailing disposition for me?

Well, I’ll take the Creators.

How do I become a Creator? Scour this site and you will be on your way 🙂

Have a great week!

The Strangest Secret

If you haven’t figured it out by now, I’m a big (HUGE) fan of Earl Nightingale.

While he has since passed, his teachings are timeless.

One of his works is called: The Strangest Secret.

In this short audio program he has commentary along the following lines…

Wouldn’t you think that if some great learning experience and knowledge was captured in the past that people would make use of it today? That is, apply it to direct the course of their lives.

The too frequent reality is that, such is NOT the case.

There are NUMEROUS “works” that qualify as wisdom passed down through the ages, including:

  • The Bible: Although, to be fair, without a “tour guide” it “can be” a bit confusing. To this, I’d encourage you to find a good church with parishioners that can help you navigate this outstanding set of books, authored by numerous people.
  • As A Man Thinketh by James Allen: As you begin reading this (free) eBook (ONLY 21 pages) you will find that every single sentence has a ton of wisdom that will cause you to pause on each to give adequate attention and consideration on how it applies to your life.
  • The Strangest Secret and/or Lead the Field by Earl Nightingale.

Note, the first 2 bullets above include a link to the referenced work which you can access for free, online. So, cost is NOT an excuse 🙂

So, what is the strangest secret? Well, it is something that is reinforced in ALL of the above “works”, and many others that have been passed down through the ages. It is, according to Earl Nightingale:

We become what we think about

It was stated by many, in various works and words. A few samples follow:

We become what we think about all day long. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. William James

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. Lao Tzu

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. Marcus Aurelius

What we think we become. Buddha

A man is but a product of his thoughts. What he thinks he becomes. Gandhi

For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

As you can see, the strangest secret has been revealed down through the ages; across different religions, societies and professions. And, while the sources of the above quotes may disagree on many things, on this one point they ALL agree!

Why is this?

Because it is based on the the universal law of cause and effect.

Doesn’t thinking precede action? That being the case, if we guide our thinking towards the outcomes we’d like to experience in life then there is really only one way things can go – eventually…

It doesn’t happen overnight or from dumb luck.

The results we seek come from thinking, planning, acting, falling down, getting bruised, getting back up and never giving in!

You might ask: “Why would anybody wait to get started? The sand is running out in ALL of our hour glasses.

To that I’d respond: “You are 100% correct. Let’s not arrive at old age, or the pearly gates, with the regret of not going for it.

All the best!

We Are Responsible For Ourself!

Oh, there is so much wisdom to be found on the trails.

I just completed a 19.6-mile bike ride on the Franconia Notch recreational trail, in northern NH. As I write, I’m sitting at my campsite along the Pemigewasset River (actually, it is more like a stream at this early point of its path) listening to the babbling water on its way south to join the ever expanding flow.

I didn’t know it at the time, but Cindy and I have snowmobiled this “biking” trail. And, we were fortunate enough to do so in 2003 just before the Old Man of the Mountain fell. Today, there is an Old Man viewing area with apparatuses that allow you to get a sense of what the Old Man looked like when he will still mounted high above Profile Lake. More on that later.

I’d have to say that the experience is so much different when you are meandering through the woods on a bicycle, as you seem to have more of an opportunity to stop and glance at the many wonders of nature in this fantastic state park. When on a snowmobile all I want to do is go super fast 🙂 So naturally, I miss a lot of the scenery.

Lafayette Campground, where I’m staying, is right in the middle of the 9+ mile recreational trail (which runs north / south). The gentleman at registration said the northern portion of the trail is steeper while the southern part is more of a gradual slope. My response: No matter. What goes up must come down.

I decided to take on the more difficult section first to get that behind me while I was still fresh. The scenery on this end of the trail was mostly mountains as well as passing a nice spot along Profile Lake. All extremely beautiful!

Note: You can click on any of these photos to expand and get a better view.

NORTH1

The next 2 photos are of the Old Man viewing area. Notice the 6 apparatuses, in the first picture. Each has a figure at the top that, once you align yourself with where the Old Man once was on display, you can get a sense of what it looked like. Each apparatus is designed to provide viewing for people of specific ranges of heights.

OLD MAN APP 2

The following photo provides a sense of what the Old Man looked like from my vantage point on the viewing apparatus. Click on the picture to get a better look.

OLD MAN APP

After making it back to the campground (just over 10-miles completed) I then had to decide if I’d continue riding, by taking on the southern portion of the trail, or go back to camp and relax. I decided to press on.

This portion of the trail provides numerous scenic spots along the “growing” Pemigewasset River. Growing, because an increasing number of streams feed the river serving to expand its flow.

The scenes include a number of natural wonders made by flowing water over thousands upon thousands of years.

SOUTH 1

SOUTH 2

SOUTH 3

This is a highly recommended biking excursion that I’ll definitely do again! And, because I did this trip on a Thursday, there were few carbon units (I mean people) to be seen along the trail.

That said, there are 2 drawbacks, which directly result from my being spoiled from our experiences staying on Students Island in the middle of Mooselookmeguntic Lake.

First, the campsite (and much of the biking trail) is alongside route 93. While the highway can’t be seen from the campsite or most of the biking trail, you can definitely hear it. Not a big deal, as you can divert your attention to the babbling waters of the Pemigewasset.

Second, the campsites are fairly close to one-another. On Mooselookmeguntic, the sites are at least 50 to 100 yards apart. You couldn’t hear someone if they hollered. Where I presently sit, I can hear the young family talking “next door.” Just a little too close for comfort, for me 🙂

Lest you think I’m unwilling to share nature, here is a photo of my new friend who I offered some of my peanuts.

Chipmunk

Now, to the point of this post…

The wisdom gathered on this ride was actually found at the northern-most point of the biking trail, when I arrived at an information kiosk at the trailhead for numerous hiking paths to the surrounding mountains.

One of the posters on the kiosk, in bright yellow, read:

HIKER RESPONSIBILITY CODE

You are responsible for yourself. So, be prepared:

  1. With knowledge and gear. Become self-reliant by learning about the terrain, conditions, local weather and your equipment before you start.
  2. To leave your plans. Tell someone where you are going, the trails you are hiking, when you’ll return and your emergency plans.
  3. To stay together. When you start as a group, hike as a group, end as a group. Pace your hike to the slowest person.
  4. To turn back. Weather changes quickly in the mountains. Fatigue and unexpected conditions can also affect your hike. Know your limitations and when to postpone your hike. The mountains will be there another day.
  5. For emergencies, even if you are headed out for just an hour. An injury, severe weather or a wrong turn could become life-threatening. Don’t assume you’ll be rescued. Know how to rescue yourself.
  6. To share the hiker code with others.

Now, if you give the Hiker Responsibility Code more than a cursory glance you’ll see SO MANY parallels with life (outside the woods). I could go through each of the above points and draw these parallels, but I’ll spare you.

Instead, I’ll highlight just a few points that are so important in life:

  • We must EACH become self-reliant by the time we reach adulthood. I have very close family members who had to do so in their early teens. This included figuring out how to live on their own (earning their own room and board) because they were abandoned by their parents. For those of us whom this didn’t happen; we should feel super-blessed.
  • We CANNOT assume that we will EVER be rescued. Not by our parents, other family members, our church or government. To be fair, any one of these “may” be able to provide a lifeline (and again we are “blessed” if that is the case) but we must never assume this is available.
  • Be prepared! This is the easy part. All we need to do is sit down and write out our life plan and then execute. This includes thinking through each path we are considering taking, in advance, and making sure we have all the necessary resources (funding, equipment, back-up plans, etc.) to FULLY SUSTAIN OURSELVES for the journey WE have “chosen.”

In closing…Before anyone freaks out and feels alone, you are not. Just assume that you are and prepare accordingly.

Bottom-line: You are responsible for yourself.